The Impact of the Media on the “Adult Dating” Niche.

The Impact of the Media on the “Adult Dating” Niche.

Yeah, a dead rock! If you’re more interesting than one particular you’ll do just fine. If not, spoiler alert… you’re going to die alone. Oh and for the love of puppies everywhere, don’t put up an asshole list of requirements… I can’t tell you how many people I see do this. Don’t be that person. There’s no importance of it. If you keep meeting the exact same types of people, look inward people.

Trust me, a list isn’t going to fucking help you. On Their Profile You’re also looking for a brief get-to-the-point profile as well.  You’re looking for their personality, what they like and generally trying to figure out if the fucker is a sociopath or not. It’s hard to do that, though. This will always be hit or miss. Hopefully your instincts are trustworthy… It can be hard to figure out what to look for and what to concern yourself with. But if it seems safe, then go for it and send a message. You have nothing to lose. On Messaging Bet you’re going to guess that I say be brief of course you thought that you’d be right. As a personal rule, it can take around 3 to 7 messages to figure out if I want to meet someone. I’m not pushy about moving things along, but I also don’t want to send 59 messages back and forth.

If things look good and we’ve had some normal convo i could tell the gal that I want to take her on a date and let’s meet for a drink or something like that. Oh and this is certainly for the guys, if you’d like to take a woman out ASK HER OUT ON A DATE.  You don’t ask her to “hangout” or to “get together,” no! What’s wrong with people? You’re on a dating site to meet someone and take them on a date. ASK the woman out on a proper date. Don’t be an ass about it. No shame in your game, brochacho. Messaging Dos Do say “hello” and be yourself, be funny… Bring up something in their profile, or at least show that you read their profile Be genuine and show interest Messaging Don’ts Don’t write them again if they didn’t reply to your message. Take a hint. Don’t carpet bomb message them. Take the time to write an unique message. Sure, there are many women who won’t respond, but this is no excuse to not be a gentleman or lady. Take the time to actually write a well thought message. “How’s it going?” is lame. Shows you don’t really give a shit to put in effort. Don’t be “the fan.” Don’t be see your face that just drools over that person online.

They’re people, too. Note their interest, say a few quick words and wait for their reply. Online Profile E-Course So we’re putting together an E-Course to further expand on these points as well as some other ones. If you’re interested, definitely sign up and we’ll keep you in the loop. Best part? It’s free fifty free! [box type=”info”] Name First Last Email* /**/ jQuery(document).ready(function($){gformInitSpinner( 12, ‘’ );jQuery(‘#gform_ajax_frame_12’).on(‘load’,function(){var contents = jQuery(this).contents().find(‘*’).html();var is_postback = contents.indexOf(‘GF_AJAX_POSTBACK’) >= 0;if(!is_postback){return;}var form_content = jQuery(this).contents().find(‘#gform_wrapper_12’);var is_confirmation = jQuery(this).contents().find(‘#gform_confirmation_wrapper_12’).length > 0;var is_redirect = contents.indexOf(‘gformRedirect(){‘) >= 0;var is_form = form_content.length > 0 && ! is_redirect && ! is_confirmation;var mt = parseInt(jQuery(‘html’).css(‘margin-top’), 10) + parseInt(jQuery(‘body’).css(‘margin-top’), 10) + 100;if(is_form){jQuery(‘#gform_wrapper_12’).html(form_content.html());if(form_content.hasClass(‘gform_validation_error’)){jQuery(‘#gform_wrapper_12’).addClass(‘gform_validation_error’);} else {jQuery(‘#gform_wrapper_12’).removeClass(‘gform_validation_error’);}setTimeout( function() { /* delay the scroll by 50 milliseconds to fix a bug in chrome */ jQuery(document).scrollTop(jQuery(‘#gform_wrapper_12’).offset().top – mt); }, 50 );if(window[‘gformInitDatepicker’]) {gformInitDatepicker();}if(window[‘gformInitPriceFields’]) {gformInitPriceFields();}var current_page = jQuery(‘#gform_source_page_number_12’).val();gformInitSpinner( 12, ‘’ );jQuery(document).trigger(‘gform_page_loaded’, [12, current_page]);window[‘gf_submitting_12’] = false;}else if(!is_redirect){var confirmation_content = jQuery(this).contents().find(‘.GF_AJAX_POSTBACK’).html();if(!confirmation_content){confirmation_content = contents;}setTimeout(function(){jQuery(‘#gform_wrapper_12’).replaceWith(confirmation_content);jQuery(document).scrollTop(jQuery(‘#gf_12’).offset().top – mt);jQuery(document).trigger(‘gform_confirmation_loaded’, [12]);window[‘gf_submitting_12’] = false;}, 50);}else{jQuery(‘#gform_12’).append(contents);if(window[‘gformRedirect’]) {gformRedirect();}}jQuery(document).trigger(‘gform_post_render’, [12, current_page]);} );} ); /**//**/ jQuery(document).bind(‘gform_post_render’, function(event, formId, currentPage){if(formId == 12) {} } );jQuery(document).bind(‘gform_post_conditional_logic’, function(event, formId, fields, isInit){} ); /**//**/ jQuery(document).ready(function(){jQuery(document).trigger(‘gform_post_render’, [12, 1]) } ); /**/[/box] Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox!

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Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook0Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Online Dating Life’s a bitch… Then you become a bridesmaid. Another happy couple… I’m a bridesmaid bitch, it’s as simple as that. I’ve been in seven weddings since 2002: six as a bridesmaid, and one as the maid of honor. I loved all the brides and cried and kissed them tearfully on their glowing white day. I also stomped, swore and swilled on Seagrams and triple sec from the frustration of their very existence. Weddings.

I love ‘em like I love the summer, this is true. Like the beach sand that sticks betwixt my toes however, these weddings make me want to take a shower and revel at how my sunscreen failed and now I’m just badly burned. From these 7 ceremonies, I’ve spent about $5000.00. 5 Grand! Each time someone asks me to be in their wedding, I dole out a fierce hug and squeeze the bride to a near death. Shame on me, I know. Oh, and there’s the friend who’s been married twice and almost a thrice time. (I bought the bridesmaid dress and shoes, gave her a bridal gift, attended her bachelorette, then she called the wedding off). Damn women’s lib! To some, I just sound like another jealous un-married 30-something chick.

To you, I give a toast for coming up with the easiest solution to my tirade. Way to go brainy, i could give good toasts anyway. You would imagine that maybe, just maybe there’s something valid about my upsetted writing? Why can’t I just see how blessed I am to have friends who think I’m amazing enough to be a part of their special day? Guy, why am I such a cock-face, selfish butt-head?! Do I want an “I’m 31 and have no children” gift? Yes! How about a “Congratulations, you haven’t f*cked up your current relationship-ette” party? Call for a table of ten! I told Nina (last childhood friend standing) that I have one more wedding left in me, and it’s reserved for her. I’m not even sure I have energy for personal wedding. I’m getting mad at the fact that because I didn’t find my Romero ten years ago, everyone else in my life will be just as pissed as I am when it’s my turn.

Who wants a room high in lightening eyebrows on angry faces staring back at them, thinking, “geez it’s about time, what’s she like, 53 years old now?” So, the early bird gets the worm, isn’t that what we’ve been taught? The brides in their early 20’s had it made. We readily accepted their bridal party invite, stepping in to pretty gowns and encircling the bride’s every step with our own giggling mindlessness. Money mattered not, for we were just learning how to be in debt. Ten years have gone by now and I just pray the next person who asks me to be in their wedding is seriously contemplating the casual backyard BBQ. I’ll turn the veggie skewers. Maybe. Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook0Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Asides, Relationships, Self Tagged in: bitchiness, weddings Nudity and wine make for great bed fellows… “Wine and wenches empty men’s purses” – a wise Englishman.

Truer words have never been spoken… Some of you’ll or may not know that I’m gainfully unemployed and have been without a regular job since May. In other words I’ve been a man of leisure since my paycheck was claimed by a “work-force reduction.” The reason I mention that is because it allowed me to do something I haven’t been able to do since I was still in high school. Get sauced and get naked during the summer pretty much any day I saw fit. It all started with a little trip up the California Coast and then into the wine country… My girl is a teacher, so her summer off coincided with my summer of “leisure,” if you will.

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The first thought that sprung to mind was doing some wine tasting. At the time, I was excited! We would start off on a beautiful and scenic drive up the coast, early in the morning, and by the time afternoon rolled around we could be at any number of wineries enjoying the sweet and bitter fruits of the vine along with yummy cheeses and pizza… Okay, maybe not pizza. We spent a few days in wine country hitting about every major winery there was. Do you want to know what I discovered? I’m a wino. I also discovered that clothes have a funny way of slipping off your significant other with respect to the amount of wine consumed, if i could be so blunt. This was a very good thing. We discovered that you could bottle up “sexy” and serve for pleasure. After our wine tasting tour, my gal and I were a bit… lost.

You see, we couldn’t just wine taste each and every weekend. Also, local wine places were… lacking? A quick analysis told us this: We want good wine, sexy time and we don’t want to drive two hours to go get it! Sexy in a bottle Enter the Naked Winery and their Foreplay Chardonnay. If sensuality and sexy could be bottled up, it would be in this little bottle of Chardonnay. When combined with dim lighting, mood music (preferably to the stylings of Cameo and those Bee Gees… Don’t judge me!) it makes for a delightful evening of teasing and pleasing. I mean, what would you expect from a wine that has “Foreplay” on the label!!? While I’m not anywhere near an expert on the topic of wines, i could tell you that the wine has a clean and crisp finish. Not too sweet and it has hints of pears, apples and other things I’m hard pressed to pronounce let alone spell.  Sometimes the lady and I aren’t able to finish our Vino in one setting, so finding a good bottle of wine that will hold up in the fridge is nice, since we’re not always gulping down bottles all in one night. Get warmed up for Fall! The Folks at Naked Winery are offering 30% discount on all purchases of their Foreplay Chardonnay product to readers of the Urban Dater. Simply Use Discount Code: single This post is sponsored by the Naked Winery Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook0Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Date Ideas Tagged in: Naked Winery It goes without saying that a new relationship is like putting on warm underwear, fresh out of the dryer. You’re excited, the other person’s excited, your friends reel from your over bearing in-your-face make out exchanges.

When things are going well, it’s easy to take things easy and begin taking things for provided. Suddenly the amazing oral you’ve been getting is gone! Next, your partner is no longer making you breakfast before shipping you out to your job. It could be dark times in the no so distant future, people. What’s happy go lucky person to do? The “newness” of a relationship has an expiration date, when all the other exciting things have fallen away and the reality of the relationship and the work it represents rears its ugly head. It’s a fact. Generally, it’s not a sudden transition, from new to ugh, but a slow seemingly seamless transition. My girlfriend (yes, I do know what that term means, Miguel) and I are both recently anointed Mac Book owners. There was much fun to be had having Mac dates and such, she’d come over and play her bejeweled and I’d madly tap away at my keyboard looking at porn and Star Wars Kid Mods. (However, if you tell this to said girlfriend I will punch you in the urethra, even if you don’t have one. I’m an improviser in that way.) While this is all good fun, doing it too often isn’t. Things get boring. We became stale. How did we break this chain of computer happy lameness? Some time ago I had mentioned a hike that I’d wanted to do. The hike was put off because of the fact I recently had my wisdom teeth pulled and since then was in fact more an after though than a call to action.

Well, Lucy, we’ll call her, suggested that we should do that hike a couple days before we were to hang out again… Ding ding ding! PERFECT! The hike kicked our ass. It really did! But we both had such an amazing time and really broke things up, outside of our routine. Another thing that we’ve come up with is simply taking a “Ferris Beuller Day Off.” We just take a day off work and do whatever we feel like. We don’t really have a plan and that’s fine. Spending time together really is the goal here. I guess all I’m really saying is that it’s not hard to keep a relationship well-oiled. Having sex in new places is pretty awesome, but convenience is a thing of beauty. Best of all is that it really is easy. Like your mom. That’s for my girl, Leslie. =) Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook2Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Opinion, Relationships, Tips & Advice Tagged in: advice, Relationships You’re all a bunch of bitches! Okay, I would ike to walk that back.

No, you’re not all bitches. The vast majority of women on OkC are pretty awesome and amazing. Much more so than me. Which gives me a complex. I mean, if women on the OkC are so amazing then what hope do I have of snagging one? For I fail and suck at all things linked to life. Here’s my problem. I don’t know the difference in when I should use your, you’re and, um, yore. I am not well traveled. Things that I have to read, or listen to or check bore me pretty quickly, so I don’t do any of that.

I also masturbate too much. As a result, I have shitty vision and intermediate uveitis that was probably caused by jerking off into my eye while trying to mimic the album cover to Crust’s 1991 offering ‘Crust.’ That said, I don’t have a lot going for me in any way, shape or form. People. I’m a dick bag-loser hoser… Which leads me to: 5 Things I Learned From Women on OkCupid  The Majority of OkCupid Women Hate Your Thoughtful Messages – The Carpet Bombing technique WORKS – Yes, it does! I’ve sent some well thought, short but sweet messages that often go unanswered. The message that has an over 60% rate of reply?  This one: “Hello, I have noticed you here a couple of times . I’d thought I would come over and introduce myself, my name is Alex. What is your name?” – Lame, right? Wrong! Yes, women respond to that message. Which sucks. This serves to tell me which actually reading through a profile is a waste of time.

I don’t truly believe that; I think it IS important. The waste of time is crafting a thoughtful message that gets NO reply. That, friends, is lame. Women are Grammar Nazis – Clearly I have too much time on my hands. But three different days this past month I went on OkC and clicked through 20 profiles each. About 47% associated with the profiles mentioned a great disdain for men who cannot spell and/or wield the English language properly with their case-in-point being able to correctly use: there, they’re and their in sentences. Fuck you! If that is your pet peeve and deal breaker, get a damned boob job you well-manicured jack-ass! It doesn’t matter if your standing over there or if your friends over their don’t like who yore dating, it just matters that you can convey your thoughts appropriately. OkC Women Are Mostly Vegetarian… But Not Really – Sigh. I know, I know.

Now it just sounds like I’m a petty piece of shit. And I am both of those things, but I hide them well enough… Usually. Ladies, look. Dont’ say you’re mostly Vegetarian. Don’t even say that you avoid red meat or you’re Pescatarian. I’ve seen many a Pescatarian down non-fishy foods… Not only do you annoy real Vegetarians and Vegans, but you are annoying me, too, because I have to listen to Vegetarian and Vegan friends complain about people like that. It’s a vicious fucking cycle. Just say: “I eat healthy.” Be done with it, cause no one gives a shit. OkC Women Like Travel – Nothing wrong with travel. But women on here like to travel. A lot. OkC Women, in LA, Work in Entertainment or Fashion – Seriously. When I was clicking through the profiles, better than 70% associated with the women worked in Fashion or Entertainment aka “I’m not from around here.” Not that it matters, because, fuck, I’m not from around here either. It’s cool.

Whatevs. But i could find little in life less interesting than talking to a woman who drones on about her Entertainment gig. Maybe I sound jaded… Well, shit, I do, but some of the recent dates I’ve been on have made me consider putting a kibosh on dating women who work in entertainment.  Fashion’s okay, though. Bonus Time: Lists – Yes, I know we all maintain a list. And I’ve written about these dating list requirements a time or two. I don’t like them. But women on here have them like they’re going out of style. Yes, be tall; yes, be funny; yes, have a couple tattoos and have a hip/rocker/geeky fashion sense; yes, I don’t wear mom pants; yes, I fucking got it, now Smurf off, for Smurf’s Sake! Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox!

Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook4Tweet0Pin3 Posted in: Online Dating, Opinion Tagged in: okcupid I used to be a skinny person until I started working out around the last quarter of 2013. And to my surprise, you can actually improve your sexual health by doing some squats after a workout. I realized this because I do squats every time after I workout. The payoff of doing squats for both boys and girls is magnificent. I used to only do it for the improvement for my bum, my quadriceps, and my thigh muscles. Little did I know that research has shown that working out your major muscles (squats targets 3 really big muscle groups) helps in the production and release of endorphin as well as testosterone. That’s whydoing squats can help a skinny guy to build some upper body musclesas well as give them a sexy set of gluts to boot. Not only do women find men with a well-built upper body to be attractive, recent surveys answered by women across the world also have indicated that the second most sexy part of a guy apparently is his butt, and almost at par with a solid set of ripped abs. Well, actually, all workouts produce a temporary spike of testosterone and growth hormone, but since squats target 3 big muscle groups at the same time, it is by far one of the most effective exercise that can be done almost anywhere. Moreover, not only does exercise generally improve your sexual health through promoting good circulation and increased stamina, testosterone also generally helps in the production of sperm as well as increases the sex drive. In Summary, Doing Squats After Your Workout Can Improve Your Sexual Health By: Improving your physique, making you more attractive to the contrary sex by improving muscle development on upper and lower body.

Triggers production of testosterone if done adequately and consistently. Can improve your sex drive by increase of testosterone. Can increase male fertility through increase of sperm count via testosterone release.